When it comes to Christian and secular dating practices, there are several differences to be considered. One of the most important differences is that many Christians see dating as a step in the serious process of finding a spouse. Alternatively, in the secular world, dating is often looked at as a way of getting to know many people and marriage may not play a part in the mind of either person. In other words, the purpose of dating is seen differently by the two groups.
Looking at some typical dating practices of many Christians helps to better explain their perspective on the process. First, in many cases the date may take place during a church-related activity. The two individuals get to know one another while interacting with others of the same faith. Fun, lighthearted outings, such as a trip to an amusement park or a basketball game, are also opportunities for two people who share a common faith to become acquainted. When the two individuals know one another better, then they might decide on a quieter atmosphere for the date, in order to talk alone. Many Christians believe in abstinence before marriage and even no-touch love as a way to avoid getting swept up in powerful emotions that may cause them to compromise their beliefs. In the view of many Christians, dating is a thoughtful process that entails slowly getting to know a person and considering whether marriage to the person is in their future.
The divorce rate in the United States ranges from approximately forty to fifty percent. It would seem likely that two people who share the Christian faith, as well as take the time to get to know one another, would be better equipped to avoid becoming a divorce statistic. Two people who view their marriage as sacred and who are dedicated to making it successful, have begun life together with a tremendous advantage.
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